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Best-selling author Katrina Kenison reading to a group from her latest book "The Gift of an Ordinary Day".
You think the life you have right now is the only life there is the one that's going to last forever and so it's easy to take it all for granted.
The uneventful days that begin with pancakes for breakfast and end with snuggles and stories in the dark in between.
There might be a walk to the creek, a dandelion bouquet caterpillars in a jar.
Countless peanut butter sandwiches.
Baking soda volcanoes and impassioned renditions of the wheels on the bus winters, lopsided snowmen and summer trips to town for cookie dough ice cream, cones, Cheerios poured into bowls, finger, nails, clipped calyx pasted down with warm water, nose, kisses and eyelash kisses and pinky swears.
Of course, I worried I thought, if I didn't carry my four year old back to his own room after a bad dream, he would sleep with us forever.
I thought, when one son refused to share his favorite puppet, it meant he'd never play well with others when my firstborn cried as I left him at the nursery school door, I believed he would always have trouble separating sometimes out in the parking lot, I cried too and wondered why saying goodbye has to be so hard.
And if maybe I was the one with the problem, all the flowers bloom in their own time.
My 85 year old grandmother said, when I confided my fears, of course, she was right.
There were disappointments teams, not made best friends who turned mean for no reason, ear, aches and strep, throats and poison ivy, a cat that died too soon fish after fish gone belly-up in the tank.
But mostly the world we lived in the family.
We'd made childhood itself felt solid certain enduring.
What I loved most of all was a boy on my lap, the Johnson's baby shampoo smell of just washed hair.
I loved my sons kissable, cheeks and round, bellies, they're, unanswerable, questions, they're, innocent faith in Santa, Claus and birthday wishes and heaven as a real place.
I loved their sudden tears and wild infectious giggles, even the smell of their morning breath when they would leap upon waking from their own warm beds directly into ours for most of us.
The end comes in stages.
Baseball's stopped flying in the backyard board games, gather dust on the shelves baths give way to showers long ones at the oddest times of day, a bedroom, door, that's always been open quietly closes.
And then one day crossing the street you reach out to take a hand, that's always been there and find you're grasping at air instead.
And that your 12 year old is deliberately walking two steps behind pretending he doesn't know who you are it hits you then you've entered a strange new territory, a place known as adolescence.
Arriving on these foreign shores.
You feel the ground shift beneath your feet.
The child you've loved and held and sacrificed for has been transformed enroute into a sullen alien creature, hunched over a cereal bowl.
And you wonder where you went wrong.
The thing is you can't, go back and do one single minute of it over all you can do is figure out how to get through the rest of this day or the midnight hour when your mind keeps replaying, the last argument you had with your tenth grader and wondering, how can I do this better? And slowly it dawns on you, the life that once seemed like forever has already slipped away the old routines, don't work anymore.
Instead every day now it's like you're learning to dance all over again, with strangers, spinning faster and faster holding on letting go.
You do what you can to keep up you fill the refrigerator, drive supervised, proofread.
You negotiate curfews and car privileges, celebrate a part in the school play a three-pointer, a hard-earned, a - you fill the refrigerator.
And you fill in every bit of white space on your calendar, SATs and a CTS and SAT, 2s, playoffs and performances and proms.
You ignore a bedroom that looks as if it's been bombed write, lots of checks.
Try not to ask so many questions, you fill the refrigerator and count the beer bottles in the door.
You willingly give up the last Ice Cream Sandwich in the freezer buy pizzas when their friends come over keep the dog quiet on Saturday morning till you hear feet hit the floor upstairs.
You learn to text and to pray.
There are many nights when you trade sleep for vigilance.
You become an expert in reading the rise and followed a phone conversation muffled behind a door.
The look in their eyes as they walk through the room, the meaning of a sigh, the smell of a jacket, the unspoken message behind the innocuous, hey, mom, hey, you say, hey, hon.
And before you know, it you're in the homestretch of high school and face to face with the truth.
You should have known all along this time of parents and children all living together under one roof, isn't the whole story after all it's, just one chapter hard as it is to live with teenagers.
You can't quite imagine life without them.
And yet this time of 24/7, zip your jacket here's your sandwich mothering by which you defined yourself for so long it's coming to an end.
So, you remind yourself learn, the art of letting go by practicing it in the present, instead of regretting what's over and done with savor every minute of the life.
You have right.
Now a family dinner you.
And the kids I'll squeeze down to the couch to watch a movie a cup of tea in the kitchen before bed saying goodnight.
In person, if motherhood teaches us anything it's that we can't change our.
Children we can only change ourselves and so instead of wishing that the kids could be different somehow you try to see everyday what's already good in each of them until love that because any moment now you're going to be hugging a daughter who's turned into a woman.
We're standing on tiptoes, saying, goodbye to a son, who's suddenly, six feet tall and heading off to a college halfway across the country.
They leave in a blur.
Music, tearing the closets apart in a desperate.
Last-Minute search for the gray sweatshirt or the timberland boots and then too soon.
They really are gone and the house rings with a new kind of silence.
The gallon of whole milk.
Turns sour in the fridge because no one's home to drink it.
The last ice cream sandwich is all yours.
Nobody eats the car.
And you look at your husband across the dinner table, which suddenly feels way too big for two and wonder.
How did it all end so fast? The bookshelf in my own living room is full of photo albums nearly 20 years worth of well-documented birthday cakes and holidays piano recitals and little league games.
But the memories I find myself sifting through the past to find the ones I'd give anything now to relive are the ones that no one ever thought to photograph, the ones that came and went as softly as a breeze on a summer afternoon, it's taken a while, but I certainly do know it now.
The most wonderful gift I had the gift I.
Finally learned to cherish above all else was the gift of all those perfectly ordinary days you.